How To Create Chemistry With Anyone Leil Lowndes

How to Create Chemistry with Anyone: 75 Ways to Spark It Fast -- and Make It Last

Why do you feel an instant attraction to one person and not another? And how can you help ensure that a connection lasts? With her ability to deliver cutting edge information in a lighthearted style, communications expert Leil Lowndes has made a career of teaching the secrets of successful interaction.

In this book, based on the latest findings in cognitive science, she shows readers how to spark that elusive feeling of chemistry with almost anyone -- and sustain it when the relationship moves to the next level, from marriage to parenthood and beyond.

Although chemistry affects nearly every relationship, few people understand it -- what initiates it, what destroys it, and what makes it last forever. While genetic makeup and past experiences all play a role, there are many things you can do to influence it.

Ultrapractical, How to Create Chemistry with Anyone turns the complex neurological science of attachment into 75 easy communication strategies and unusual techniques that show readers what to do -- and what not to do -- to find and keep love.

Nonfiction

Self Help

Relationships

Psychology

272 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2013

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2,114 reviews 33.4k followers

Edited February 22, 2019

Since I'm doing the online dating thing, I might be able to get over one of the things that is holding me back. I'm a bit of a looks-queen. I don't want to just fancy men I consider good-looking (YMMV), who have fit bodies, look like they can dance and fancy me. I want to be able to ignore all that and just go for personality and character. So far I haven't succeeded, So if I can create that spark with guys who don't appeal to me physically, I will broaden the number of men I might have a relationship with.

I'm not doing that badly, but.... I met a guy in Dec. and he's been out to the islands and I've been to Miami in Jan and Feb (and am going back in two days), but he's a sociopath, which is a shame since he treats me like a real princess by day, fabulous restaurants etc, and a slut by night :-D but being a sociopath there is no potential for a LTR.

I also have a couple of dates to come, one from an ex Atlantic Falcons footballer who drives the same fab car as the sociopath, a C300 and one from a ship's master, who flies all over the world to move ships and megayachts. Both interesting men, but there is No Chemistry. Maybe this book will help.

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30 reviews

Edited February 26, 2013

Got this book for free at a recent library conference. I've been skimming through it, and I gotta say, it does make me laugh. Partly because the book is humorous, and partly because I can't imagine myself, or any woman for that matter, feeling comfortable with some of the attraction strategies the author suggests. I'm not sure how valid all of the hunter/huntress tips to create the "spark" are, but the author's conversational tone is enjoyable enough. If you're the type of person who likes dating self-help books, this might be a winner for you.

April 20, 2019

Over simplified, awful, not interesting or insightful.

34 reviews 1 follower

Edited September 9, 2021

Truly entertaining and fascinating and informative all at once. I love Leil.

7 reviews

Edited September 18, 2013

As someone who's highly interested in psychology, I found this book very enjoyable. The author is able to incorporate humour and neuroscience from various studies in a way that is easy to understand and is entertaining to read. I would not recommend this book if you're looking for a quick and relevant guide to dating, however if you are fascinated by the scientific reasoning behind the differences of males and females when it comes to relationships, this is the book for you!

2013

160 reviews

Edited November 10, 2017

Prone to gender simplifications, this book was half-Cosmo magazine. On the other hand, the other half was an interesting look at the chemistry of human interaction, feelings, and the evolutionary biology behind it. I enjoyed the book, thought it a good read.

6 reviews

September 15, 2018

A stereotype book on the differences between men and women.

163 reviews 6 followers

October 26, 2019

Another practical book from Ms. Lowndes. This gave me the behind-the-scenes of what's really going on when we feel that "spark" with someone and provided straightforward tips on how to ignite it and make it last. Indeed, the male and female brain are structured differently and, thus, operate in quite a different manner that can also be attributed to our prehistoric origins as hunters and gatherers. It secretes a variety of chemicals that, depending on the gender, can either induce or reduce the emotion we tenderly call "love". It was an easy read with well-referenced materials that I highly enjoyed reading. I may be taunted as being a hopeless romantic, but, really, love is the most magical thing in this world. So if you want to understand the mystery behind it, this book is good place to start. "Love is a temporary madness. it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion...That is just being "in love" which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when "being in love" has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two."

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October 14, 2019

The psychology aspect was interesting, though I'm not entirely convinced it's completely accurate. Regardless, I would recommend for anyone interested in relationship psychology, if only because it's a good primer on the current science.

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April 25, 2021

While I'm not much into self-help books, I found that this brought up some interesting points about differences between Male and female interests when dating, falling in love, and ultimately staying in love long term.
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